HEALING
This week's affirmation reads - I have a divine right to heal, for I know that Domestic Violence and violent relationships can hurt in ways imperceptible, and for me to show up in the world as the best version of myself, I need healthy vestiges to release negative emotions. I know that seeking therapy and engaging in constructive esteem building activities can help me heal the trauma and brokenness I might feel from dealing with dysfunctional, draining or otherwise abusive relationships.
As we aim to heal the brokenness we might feel from the tattered vestiges and deep wounds of disappointments and betrayal, along with the torture and terror involved in being entangled with those who have psycho-socially, emotionally, physiologically, and even spiritually harmed us, the journey might prove immensely difficult, especially in the beginning.
Likewise, the paths we each of us take might even look different.
However, taking the first steps towards healing is a very necessary part of freeing ourselves from dystrophic and otherwise abusive relationships and best of all, helps us break dysfunctional behavioral patterns that don't serve us well.
There is so much undoing and unlearning to be had in releasing the vestiges of ourselves we created in our aim of surviving violence, that reconnecting with the light of who we are, or even engaging in those lifestyle activities that once brought us pleasure, can prove a challenge.
Good thing is, there is an array of resources available to help us, as we brave our way out of the old of dystrophy, and into the new of healthy.
For the violence incurred from living in dysfunctional relationships can hurt us in ways imperceptible.
And it becomes the vestiges of healing, whether by way of seeking therapy or counseling, confiding in a trustworthy friend or companion, engaging in esteem building activities, or even joining domestic violence communities, who both understand the plight survivors face and can likewise imbue us with the tools we might need to break free and stay free from those who hurt us, that prove the utmost importance in helping us connect with groups who understand the depth of Domestic Violence Trauma.
For we Are Not Alone.
And healing, while difficult and uncertain at least initially, is definitely possible, with the reward for doing so in connecting in depth with ourselves.
We have learned full circle, what the effects are of engaging in low quality experiences, and are now better equipped to embrace the joys to be had in connecting with ourselves and others in healthier ways, and likewise, with those whose aim isn't to use, abuse, devalue, or discard us.
For just as we've learned unhealthy socialization patterns, and have learned how to survive in all sorts of defunct and dystrophic circumstances, we can also learn healthy ways to relate, commune, and engage with others as well.
As long as we remain bonded with unhealthy people in unhealthy relationships, we will never have to chance to experience the best of what the quality of our lives might be, granted we surround ourselves with good natured people with equally good-natured intentions for us.
What a relief it is to know that even in the darkest of our brokenness, there is always the light of hope and healing, and best of all that we are good enough to have it.
We here at OasisAgainstViolence encourage our survival community to heal.
Heal so you don't have to bear the brunt of weight in carrying the torch of dysfunction, distress and depression.
Heal so you don't pass down ancestral trauma to your progeny time and time again.
Heal so you can experience the fullness and joy of what it's like to socialize with folks who really mean good for you.
And best of all, Heal because you owe it to yourself to both give and receive the best of the best, that life has to offer all of us within both our life experiences and within our social circles.
Embrace your healing journey.
For as you do, you both accept and make way for better things to come, for you and all who you embue with your light.